Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Bringing Communication to the forefront of Your Success!

Dear PS
...just one more thing to say.

PS Perkins, contributor to: Laws of Communication & WAKE UP WOMEN
Dear PS:

Q: I have a real hard time talking with people one-on-one. When at gatherings or in small groups, I am ok, but when I have to interact interpersonally, I don’t know what to say!
A: The art of conversation is an ability that escapes most people for a number of reasons. One wonderful interpersonal conversation resource is listening! You’d be surprised what you can relate to when you recognize the commonness found in most discussions. Another important guide to conversation is your repertoire. What are your interests? What do you usually talk about? Discover a little about a lot and feel more comfortable talking to anyone! Lastly, learn to value silence. You do not have to say anything unless you feel it worthwhile to all listening.

Q: I have been reading about the power of positive thinking. I am not sure if it really works but I noticed recently that I am constantly thinking negatively about everything, easily angered, and discouraged. Do my thoughts really affect my mood?
A: Your concern is very important. Many individuals are experiencing challenging times. There has been an explosion of positive thinking gurus! Their messages are nothing new. The human race has always brought forth many thought “doctors” trying to help us see the direct connection between our thoughts, words, and experiences. So YES, your thoughts definitely affect your behavior – your life. We call this Intrapersonal Communication – your self-talk. By monitoring your thoughts, which will adjust your words, you WILL change your life! It’s like the old saying – “out with the old, in with the new!”

Q: I have received a couple of complaints that I have a tendency to invade other people’s space. I do not mean to but I guess I am just not aware. I just don’t get it!
A: Each culture has its own rules governing personal and area space. You may be from a culture that looks at personal space differently. The study of Nonverbal Communication (NVC), which is culturally bound, helps us to navigate the global community we increasingly must live and work in. This “science” includes variables such as time, space, touching, smell, etc. Observe the NVC of those around you and adjust accordingly – as I always say, “when in Rome do as the Romans; when at home do as the homies!” Communication is always appropriate or inappropriate.